This one is for every single friend I’ve ever had.
To all my friends, I truly thank God EVERY TIME I think of you, which is often.

I found it. I found the two quotes that prove the friendships in my life will not fail.

There is magic in long-distance friendships. They let you relate to other human beings in a way that goes beyond being physically together and is often more profound. ~Diana Cortes

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. ~Elisabeth Foley

I don’t even know who Diana Cortes and Elisabeth Foley are (well, after a quick google search I discovered Foley is a professor of law in Miami), but these women knew the words that perfectly fit the life I’ve chosen to live abroad. And they knew how to describe the essential element of friendship that keeps this world moving: connection.

The truth is, the longer we live, more people will continue to connect to our lives. This keep us rooted. Moving to Taiwan was no reason to swap best friends and abandon the one who lives in the States. It was an opportunity to make a new best friend. Here.

I’ve heard people express their desire to live in the college dorm forever, because all their friends were in one place. But I challenge that. Living together and using the same space every minute of the day isn’t connection. That’s clustering, congregating, containing. Not connecting.

Connection is put to the test when you start walking separate paths, start meeting different people, start experiencing life in places that are far away from from the people you love.

That’s what I did. That’s what many of us did.

But at the end of the day, I still can’t get any of my friends out of my mind, which brings me to the words of three other people who understood human nature.

Friendship is one mind in two bodies. ~Menclus

What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies. ~Aristotle

In my friend, I find a second self. ~Isabel Norton

As I ponder all of this and allow it to paint over my perspective with fresh colors, I am reminded of the words of One who calls me His friend, who, in fact, defines friendship for every single one of us.

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love as no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends…”

3 thoughts on “friends

  1. This has offered me an entirely new perspective on something that has been tearing me apart lately. Thank you, Victoria. Your words are…inspiring :)- Nick S

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